The truth of it is that motherhood is hard. We can all agree on that one that there are challenges with motherhood. But why? We love them. They are the cutest squishiest little people that love you unconditionally and they make you feel so special. So why is it so hard you ask?
I will tell you why it is hard.
You are not teaching them how to be adults,
they are teaching you how to be adults.
It is hard because when they are upset about something that we see as small, like not getting the cookie that their sister has, we think of them as just kids or over reacting. But we have to look at ourselves and see that we just had the same tantrum over not having our neighbors green lawn, or car they drive.
Kids have are the same struggles as ours. Once we realize that these little people have the same pains, same feelings and emotions, then it is easier for us to understand them.
Relate to your kids instead of try to teach them. When you feel like someone doesn't like you it is the same as when you didn't get picked to be on the soccer team, or got third place in the science fair. These experiences HURT and they are the same as when we have our "adult" issues.
Our kids are teaching us how to be more patient, more understanding, more forgiving, and they are doing a lot of work on us. When we make mistakes they have already forgiven us, it is our job as parents to do our part in forgiving ourselves so that we can continue to be a better mother and person.
I am humbled by how much my kids have helped me get through hard times. I can see them get through hard things and they are still happy and playing the next day. So why can't I be like that? Well, you can you just have to learn from them. Stop worrying about your "adult" issues. They are just issues. They are hard. It is okay.
There is one thing that I have learned to help me in this chaotic world of motherhood is getting yourself a minimal Mom-friendly Closet. Being a mom on the go I really struggle with finding an outfit that checks off all my mom clothes list.
1-flattering on my body
2- my style and taste
3- modest
4- nursing friendly
5-comfortable
6- easy to clean/care for
7- Fits me! I am so tiny there is nothing that fits
8- affordable
9-easy to make an outfit
10-quality
It doesn't seem like too much to ask but for some reason I have the hardest time coming up with clothes that I want and it is a constant battle with myself every morning. I get inspiration for clothes from other moms, and then find out that it too much money, or its a maxi so it will drown me or the color or print just will not work.
I will constantly buy things and then take them back or sell them to people or take them to thrift stores because it just doesn't work out. The past couple months I have been on the hunt for the
"mom on the go" must haves.
I have found the perfect pair of leggings that every mom can wear and will be a key piece in your wardrobe. The Blanqi leggings are good quality and super comfortable. A black pair of leggings is flattering on most body types and black goes with everything. You can throw on some sneakers or some heels and can be worn with any top or jacket you have. The most brilliant part of these is that they are high waisted so they hug your pooch after having a baby and also makes it easier for you to feel comfortable nursing because you are covered. I have had a lot of experience now with four kids but it finally took me until Betty that I can comfortable nurse without a cover and not look every direction and flinch when I think someone might be judging me.
I have never been completely exposed, but I will always be a supporter of however a mom wants to feed her baby in public.
I am a busy mom I can not always go into a bathroom with a bunch of kids and sit on a toilet, or go to my hot car. I have once sat in the middle of Ikea rug area on the ground and just nursed my baby. I just couldn't wait to walk through miles of tupperware with a screaming baby just to feed her. Some people would peek around the corner and just keep shopping. It was when I did that I finally felt free of that judgement. I did it without anything happening. It was okay to feed my baby.
I think Blanqi leggings have given me that confidence to feed my baby more discretely and less exposed.
It is something that is very important to me as a mother. We need to feel COMFORTABLE. We are tired, we are stressed, we beat ourselves up over our parenting mistakes.We don't need more worries. Just do your thing.
That is why I really love the Blanqi tee shirts. The shirt says "motherhood is my muse,"
It is the truth. All my creativity and all my energy and motivation is because of them.
That is why I really love the Blanqi tee shirts. The shirt says "motherhood is my muse,"
It is the truth. All my creativity and all my energy and motivation is because of them.
I am hosting a giveaway on my blog this week for FREE LEGGINGS!
I am so excited to be able to have the opportunity to work with a brand that I love and think every mom needs.
All you have to do is tag three friends and like my photo. Follow
and
and you are entered in the giveaway. I will announce the random winner Saturday the 11 and Blanqi will ship you out an awesome pair of leggings.
One thing I did notice about these leggings is that they can not be dried. They will get piling on them. Once I realized that they have kept their quality and shape and they are amazing leggings.
XOXO
photo credit to Madison Montgomery
